With every failure comes a lesson. With this failure I learned a lesson about apologies.
Saturday I watched the much hyped about “Iyanla Exclusive: Karrueche” interview on OWN. The interview was much of what I expected;
- Karrueche made excuses for her ex-boyfriend, Chris Brown’s actions;
- She made excuses for why she repeatedly took him back after being publicly disrespected;
- She admitted that she still loves him
All were very expected based on her championship worthy history of ride-or-die chickdom, but the interview did expose some things that I didn’t know about Chris Brown and Karrueche’s relationship:
1. Chris Brown got one of his dancers to get Karrueche’s number when they first met and she was fine with this
This should’ve have been the first sign to Karrueche that Chris was not a normal man, but more of a schmuck. He saw her like all of the rest of his groupie conquest and didn’t have the graciousness to approach her himself.
Karrueche thought that if she acted “different” than the other girls and gave him the love that she thought he needed, he would treat her differently. That was her first instinct.
If he wouldn’t even come up to you himself to get your number, YOU ARE LIKE THE REST. I can see that from the jump, and Chris Brown thought the same. Any man that feels like they are so high up that hey won’t even say “Hi,” clearly thinks their the shit and sees you as a conquest, not anything to be respected, but a pretty trinket to add to his collection.
2. Karrueche is more naive than I thought
Karrueche is so naive that I felt naive while watching this interview.
As stated above she saw herself as “different” than the other girls Chris Brown had in his arsenal. She still thought Chris Brown would see her as this “different” chick, even though on their first date he had her out at 2:30am.
Oh yeah girl you’re real different! He respects the hell out of your time and he definitely saw himself with you for the long-term.
Then Karrueche makes things even worse by repeating that she is human to excuse her naivety. Girl, I’m sure everybody watching this show is human, but only the stupid will not admit that they were ignoring straight facts.
When Karrueche admitted that she knew Chris Brown and Rihanna were seeing each other while they were together, this confused me. She sucked me into the naivety! I really believed that they had to be on a break or something for Chris Brown to blatantly disrespect her like that, but she knew! Oh wait no, she thought they were friends…
3. Karrueche did not have a consistent father figure in her life
I don’t care. Let’s call a thing a thing (Hi, Iyanla) and just say that she was love sick and naive for this damn man.
4. Christina Milian is possibly the worst best-friend ever
And possibly just as clueless as Karrueche.
The final lesson and most important I learned during this interview was…
5. Karrueche has never cried on big bosoms
There lies the explanation for Karrueche’s behavior. Leave it all on them bosoms baby.
Photo credit: OWN/Evan Agostini
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I credit Cash Money Records for doing so much for me during my developmental years, looking back…I don’t know if that’s such a good thing now. This video was by far the worst thing that they ever did to me.
This edition of”Throwback Thursday” honors the worst music video I have ever seen in my entire life. If you have never seen Birdman and Lil’ Wayne’s music video for “Leather So Soft” please consider yourself blessed and highly favored.
I’m so sorry those blessings have to end today.
As you watch this music video please note the following:
- Violent dancing
- Fake guitar playing
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In the early 2000’s it seemed like the era of “Watch-a-thot” began.
As wrong as it may seem, thots or *hos have always made for great entertainment. From the time of Karrine Steffans, and the time of my favorite ho Kat Stacks, I have always been intrigued by them. I knew what they were doing was wrong (salute to my upbringing) but it still did not stop my or the whole worlds captivation.
“Watch-a-thot” gave new hope to your regular neighborhood ho that had been slutting around for years going unnoticed. These hos decided that they were being short changed and that they should get the same attention of these 15 minute fame whores. Sure, regular hos were exchanging their services for the luxury of being taken care of, but the hos wanted more.
In this installment of Adventures in Dating I want to cover (through pictures) the type of man that always has women and you never understand why.
Most of the time the women are attractive and have a good head on their shoulders as well, but they are tricked by this mans charm. These men are charismatic, outgoing, funny and reel you in with these initial personality traits. Soon enough you will be introduced to their other side… Continue reading
Hold up! It seems like everyone is setting up GoFundMe accounts for any reason at all and has left yours truly out of the game.
Now I’ve thought about this long and hard, and decided that I would like to set up a GoFundMe for…
In honor of Throwback Thursday (since this is what all the cool kids do) I want to start a new series called….. Throwback Thursday!
This series will be dedicated to moments in pop culture’s past that now directly correlate with personal memories in my life. These pop culture references vary. Sometimes it’s music, sometimes it a movie, sometimes it’s clothing, but I know that most things that are ingrained in my mind all have something to do with some type of cultural reference.
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Bravo’s “Thicker Than Water” has to be the funniest reality show that nobody is watching.
The show profiles the prominent Tankard family in Tennessee that owes most of their wealth to the patriarchs, Ben Tankard’s, longstanding gospel/jazz music career.
The show is not your normal reality show where people just go to lunch/dinner and then fight each other. “Thicker Than Water” is more of a family show, that displays the workings of a huge family trying to mend relationships while being rich and stuff.
The show just ended it’s second season so someone must be watching, but I want my people, my cousins, all of you to watch the show. Continue reading
The African American community’s relationship with Law Enforcement has been under strain for as long as I can remember.
Most recently, in the past 2-3 years, I have become more aware of this strain because of a new-found maturity (and a new-found ability to stomach the news).
I ALWAYS, since a little girl, had a fear of the police. I never questioned my fear, I just knew that if police were around in my community, it was never a good thing. If police were around that meant that someone was dead, someone was hurt, or someone in the neighborhood was being arrested.
With the recent publicized acts of discrimination and police brutality I now understand why I always had that underlying fear. I knew not to trust the police because I always equated them with bad things.
Because of these recent developments and their publication, my mistrust of law enforcement has risen. With so many officers not being prosecuted for acts which are morally wrong, and even caught on tape committing these acts, I had lost all faith in the justice system.
I began to develop an “us against them” mentality which I now know needs to change. Continue reading